This is normally the time of year when most singles make their New Year resolution to dust themselves down and make a conscious effort to go out and find that missing piece in their life, telling themselves that this year is their year for love and companionship.

Except this year, we are in lockdown again and possibly until March 2021.

I have had singles from many different areas contact me via my Select Connections website asking me how they could join and date as they do not to want to wait until March, they were lonely before Christmas and the New Year and now they are lonelier due to having to stay at home during this horrible time.

Some of my clients managed to get initial dates in the weeks before Christmas but these had to be outside for walks or coffee at a location with outside heaters. The ones that progressed to further dates are now dating via an online platform of their choice, but mainly via zoom.

We have now taken this idea and developed a zoom first date concept that we have been trialling since the first Tier 4 restrictions came in certain areas and more so since boxing day. With this concept we set up the zoom date, provide hints and tips on preparation and set ideas to make the date fun and realistic. The couple then choose the way they would like to run their date and we set it all up and send the links to the excited couple. We also provide any first date support that may be needed or not!

So far, we have hosted zoom dates where the couple agreed to pick a museum they both liked and took a virtual tour around it on YouTube, drinks and nibbles, afternoon tea dates. Some follow on dates (2nd dates and more) have moved to virtual cook togethers, order each other deliveroo meals, movie evenings, picnics, full dinner dress evenings and more.......the choice is endless and most couples always agree to dress for the occasion (well at least the top half)!!

I am actually thinking about giving this concept a try out myself - I promised myself in 2020 that it was my year and due to covid it has not been, so here I am, as of yesterday 3 years single (its time, I think).


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Happy New Year to everyone and at the risk of saying the same old, same old, and repeating what I have said in many blogs since March and what we are all wishing each other for 2021, which in many ways has changed from what we wished last year for 2020. Now we just want our health and freedom and content with that! It seems a long way off, with what we hear in the news today but we have hope and a light at the end of the tunnel with the vaccine.

I have copied below here my January blog from 2020:

Right, it has been a good few weeks since I have been writing, and this has been mainly due to a very busy few months with work and the events. I have taken some time to take stock of the feedback from the events and how I am going to move forward in 2020 with the style, type and locations of the events I have initially drawn up. I am pleased to say that from next week I will be posting some details of events in Belfast and the South Coast. I am very excited with what I have eventually come up with and I am looking forward to your feedback.

Christmas and New Year are a very strange and can be lonely time of the year when you are single, even though you have many friends and family around you. I, for one am glad it is all over, done and dusted!

My stars for this year are reading A LOT better than they did for 2019 - on the morning of New Years Day 2019 I read my years prediction stars out of the Newspaper supplement and they said that for the first 6 months of 2019 I would suffer with ill health, which I dismissed straight away as I am a very healthy person.

I closed the magazine and went to the shed to get the sack to put away the Christmas decorations. I walked into the shed and stood on the rake inside the shed door and knocked myself out, gave myself a black eye (I think I actually broke my nose!!)......then I went back to work for two days and had to go home with the flu (not had in years) and then went back to work a few days later and had to go off again as the flu returned with vengeance.

In February I tripped on the ironing I left on the stairs to take up and fell down the stairs and badly damaged my coxic bone.

In March, I broke my toe on the coffee table

In April, my coxic bone had to be xrayed

In May I had to commence a series of tests

In June I was told that I had to undergo tests for cancer within two weeks of then

In late June I was given the 'all clear'

Since then I have been in excellent health.......and my stars are giving me a very positive prediction for 2020.

Now it is January 2021 and I have ditched the stars and just taking life without prediction. I wish you all the simplicity of health, freedom and seeing your family and friends in 2021.....Jacqui

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Right, well its been a challenging 2020 and within the last few weeks it has become even more challenging. Many people have contacted me via my meetup groups, website, facebook, instagram and I have heard many stories of loneliness and disappointment at guidelines changing and plans being shattered at the last minute - resulting in many having to spend Christmas alone.

Lately, I have had many new people join my Friday night zoom chats and these people have told me that they have initially said, 'not me, never'! then as the weeks went by it was 'maybe' but when it came to the evening they just didn't login, feeling anxious. Eventually, due to continued lockdown and no sign of a normal face to face life returning until well into 2021 they have joined over this last few weeks and I am getting messages saying that they wished they had joined months earlier. This makes me happy and I feel it is all worthwhile, but at the same time it makes me quite sad at the thought of people sitting at home being lonely when there is a facility for them to log into and meet other people who are in exactly the same position.

It is not a 'Rocket Scientist' club (or I wouldn't be running it) :-) it is a facility to chat or to listen about anything and have a laugh without feeling you need to take part if you don't want to.

Thursday night, come along and lets have a light hearted couple of hours (8pm to 10pm)

to see out 2020 and wish for all things great in 2021 that will make us appreciate our freedom and lives much more than we did in the run up to 2020

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